I’ve always found weddings to be one of the most beautiful things in the world. Not the idea of a huge party or the reception that goes with it [although, I do love me some wedding cake]. No, what I’m really speaking about is the true nature of the wedding – the binding of two hearts for a lifetime together. What? Don’t look at me like that! [LOL.] I told you last year around about this same time that I LOVE love, people! But again, that’s not why I’m writing you today. Nope. I want to address the stress that can be a woman attending a wedding as a guest. And not at all about the whole “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” concept. I’m talking about fashion; how taxing it can be for one to figure out what to wear. Yep, I’m here to assist with some tips on picking just the right threads!
When I was younger, I used to fear about fitting in at a wedding. This worrying MIGHT have been passed down to me by my mother as she always was a frightful mess before a ceremony. “I have absolutely nothing to wear!” But then again, what woman can say she’s never muttered those words to herself, a spouse, roommate, OR even a girlfriend. I also might have had anxiety because 1) I was living with whatever my parents put in my closet at the time, and 2) we ALL know that I can be a bit of a worrywart. But, how I learned to overcome this fretting was by implying a few easy steps!
– The Invitation: This baby will most likely be your saving grace. For one, more times than not, it will list the dress code right on the invitation. [Heck yes!] Secondly, if it doesn’t, that’s okay too as it provides so many other clues. Take the venue for example. My mother didn’t have Google. It probably would have saved her lots of room for other concerns. That’s right. I’m saying do some research. Look into the venue. Is it indoor or outdoors? Also, the date! What time of year is the event? Will you need layers? Will it be hot? See what I’m getting at. All right, moving on!
– The Couple: If you’re invited to a wedding, you must know at least someone involved in the matrimony planning. Don’t be afraid to ask. And if it’s a spouse’s coworker, have him ask ;) isn’t it better to inquire now than pit-out while you’re having a meltdown in your closet?! And last but not least . . .
– You: I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times. Don’t be afraid to let you own style shine through, ESPEICALLY for an event. If you accomplish the first two, all you have left is to be yourself. Go through your closet. Look at what you have. Don’t try and be something you’re not. I’ve been to many a wedding with people I know. They show up and you’re thinking I have NEVER seen so and so dress like THAT before. I mean if you need to purchase something like a dress for the couple’s special day, go ahead and do it! But be in the realm of you and your style.
SO, here’s how I applied my three easy steps to the wedding #meandD are attending today = from the invitation, I knew three things: the time of year, the location, and the venue. It’s summer so it will mostly likely be warm outside. Then you add in the factor that it’s quite a bit inland, so scratch the warm. It will probably be HOT. Plus, from my good ole Google search, I found that the venue shows most of the ceremonies being held outside. That’s how I knew a no-sleeved dress would be a real winner. I also know the couple, understand the theme, and were in attendance with them at a wedding last summer. Most likely, their entire soiree will be active with LOTS of dancing. Thus, enters my trusty [surprisingly comfy] black pumps. And then [of course] there’s my style. I love color, adore Kate Spade, AND always try to follow Coco Chanel’s sound advice: “Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and remove one accessory.” Isn’t she brilliant?!
“Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.” – Coco Chanel
Anyway, I hope these few ideas can remedy any apprehension you might experience before getting dressed for a wedding. Okay, I better go now and jump in the shower :) much to do before today’s FUN festivities!