This lady has had a heavy heart the past few weeks for one of my dearest friends. I know everything happens for a reason [which is about the worst advice you can give to someone having his/her soul ripped in two by a selfish other], but I can’t help but feel helpless in this situation – just like I did three years ago when my life was flipped upside down. It makes me cry; weep for the anguish my friend feels and all I can do is listen through the mourning and be a good friend.
I wish I could do more.
Seeing a friend journey through the same path I have traveled, however, has given me some new insight on some past feelings. For one, I now realize that “listening” is about all you can do as a friend when another is dealing with a cheating partner. Two, I am no longer angry or hurt by my past. I can actually talk about adultery and not get upset, which is pretty awesome. I assume that means I’ve healed?! And three [well, I already knew this], I am insanely fortunate to have my D as my person. And even though, we are not yet married, he is more committed, loving, and supportive to me than any other man who has ever had my heart. He is everything I could want and a whole lot more.